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Ask Miriam | Answer the Hard Questions This Holiday Season

Dear Readers, Forget logistics for a minute. No one cares what you're eating at break fast or what materials your sukkah is made out of....
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Ask Miriam | Do High Holiday Synagogue Visitors Have Further Financial Obligations?

Dear Miriam, What is the obligation to donate to the High Holiday fundraising pledge if you are a visitor? Does that obligation change if you...

Ask Miriam | Looking for Snappy Answers to Stupid Questions

Dear Miriam, Can you help me compile a list of the best witty retorts and evasive platitudes to use in response to nosy questions? Like...
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Ask Miriam | How Do You Handle a Parenting Disagreement in Public

Dear Miriam, What are your thoughts on handling a parenting disagreement with your spouse in public, like at a friend's house or family gathering when...
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Ask Miriam | It’s Not Too Late to Rectify a Forgotten Thank You

Dear Miriam, Back in May, a colleague at a satellite office helped me arrange a meeting in her space. She went above and beyond my...
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Ask Miriam | Is There A Cure for the End of Summer Blues?

Dear Miriam, It is better to spend Labor Day conscientiously preparing for the beginning of the year and getting my life in working order, or...
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Ask Miriam | Backpack Replacement Perplexes Parent

Dear Miriam, My 7-year-old daughter wants a new backpack. She got one last year, and it's still in good condition, but she doesn't like the...
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Ask Miriam | Babysitting Blues Beckon to Insularity Issue

Dear Miriam, While trying to find a babysitter for erev Tisha B'Av this past weekend for our two young children, my wife and I realized...
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Ask Miriam | Rule-Breaking Grandma Presents Parenting Problem

Dear Miriam, My husband and I are raising our two young boys to respect boundaries and to expect other people to respect their boundaries. We...
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Ask Miriam | What to Do About Distracting Davening

Dear Miriam, I belong to a shul that often has out-of-town guests. Maybe I am just used to quiet praying among our congregants, but among...