Online auction and classified advertising sites such as eBay and Craigslist are full of personal items for sale by owners who may feel anguish — and even great pain — about letting go.
The show “Pawn Stars” is a runaway hit on the History Channel. It tells the story of three generations of the Harrison family and their Las Vegas pawnshop. There’s Richard, the patriarch (affectionately known as the “old man”); Rick, the son (who really runs the business); and Rick’s adult son, Corey (who wants to become a tough businessman like his father and grandfather).
The setup is simple: Every customer who walks through the door, intending to pawn or sell some family heirloom, has a tale. Sometimes the item is worthless, other times priceless. Rick can always tell the difference.
When he does pronounce that the medieval knight’s helmet is really a 19th-century reproduction, the item’s owner must make a choice: Sell it for less than the asking price or call the whole deal off. Often, customers call off the deal because the item’s sentimental value has just exceeded its actual value.
Online auction and classified advertising sites such as eBay and Craigslist are full of personal items for sale by owners who may feel anguish — and even great pain — about letting go. We’ve all known people who’ve had to sell a beloved home they could no longer afford at a steep loss because it was worth less than the price than they had paid for it. Ads to sell gold for cash are everywhere. Pawnshops continue to stay in business. Everything seems to be negotiable.
This week’s Torah portion features Esau selling his birthright for a song, without even considering its real or sentimental value. Here, the Torah presents Esau as a man who acts quickly, believing himself to be in desperate circumstances.
A question: Are there some things you’d never sell, under any circumstances? If your situation became so difficult that you were between rock bottom and a very hard decision, what would you hold onto no matter what, regardless of the cost?
Selling material things is one thing, but sometimes more than objects are put up for sale. Selling our children, for example, is an abomination; and yet that happens around the world. In many places, the sex trade sells people, many of them children, into slavery on a daily basis.
Some things just should never be for sale. Integrity, for example, or freedom or love should never have a price tag, and neither should one’s body.
In ancient cultures, the birthright was the special privilege given to the firstborn male of any patriarch. At his father’s death, the eldest son received a “double portion” of the inheritance — double what his brothers would get. This inheritance wasn’t just economic, however; it was also about leadership. Having the birthright meant exercising leadership over the family, replacing the father as the patriarch. The holder of the birthright ruled over his brothers, and the family line would be continued through him. In short, the birthright was designed to ensure the future of the family.
The story of Jacob and Esau reminds us that some things should just never be for sale and that one impulsive decision, made amid an anxious circumstance, can have devastating ramifications for the future. There are lots of examples of how this story gets repeated throughout history and in our own communities: The businessperson who compromises her integrity by pocketing huge profits at the expense of fair wages and treatment of the company’s employees. The respected leader who sells away his career and family for the momentary pleasure of an affair. The teenager who wrecks his or her future by abusing drugs just because “everyone else is doing it.” The driver who forgoes common sense by taking the wheel after an evening of drinking and winds up taking a life in a car crash.
There is always a reason for our selling out. The question is whether we are thinking clearly. The ultimate question is this: What determines the value of what is on the table? Do we allow God to determine our value or do we let anxiety drive what we feel we need? Have we sold ourselves to the God who created us, cares for us and gives us what we need? Or are we still willing to sell ourselves so cheaply to things that don’t matter — and are we prepared to pray the ultimate price?
In ancient China, the people wanted security against the barbaric hordes to the north, so they built the Great Wall. It was so high they believed no one could climb over it and so they thought nothing could break it down. They settled back to enjoy their security. During the first hundred years of the wall’s existence, China was invaded three times. Not once did the barbaric hordes break down the wall or climb over it. Each time, they bribed a gatekeeper and then marched right through the gates. The people were so busy relying on walls of stone they forgot to teach integrity to their children.
What is worth preserving for ourselves and our children, no matter the price?
Rabbi Edwin C. Goldberg is the senior rabbi of Temple Sholom of Chicago. A version of this article first appeared on reformjudaism.org.