Dear Miriam,

I'm currently seeing two different guys, both of whom I met online. The first is fun and seems interested in me, but I can't tell how serious he is about settling down. The second is a little older and more established, but because of his job, we won't be able to see much of each other for the next few months. How much time or attention do I give to either or both of them, and how do I tell if they're ready to make a commitment?

Signed,
Who to Pursue

Dear Pursue,
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