Miriam's Advice Well

Not Fasting Raises Questions

Dear Miriam, I can't fast on Yom Kippur (or any other day) for medical reasons. I'm torn between hiding this from my community and sneaking...

Vague Holiday Greeting Causes Confusion

Dear Miriam, In preparation for Rosh Hashanah, I sent an email to a colleague letting her know I would be out of the office for...

High Holidays Heat and Your Attire: What Do You Do?

Dear Miriam, With Rosh Hashanah so early and so hot this year, do you think suits are still a necessary part of prayer attire? Signed, Sweating in...

Invite Etiquette Stumps Reader

Dear Miriam, I am getting married soon, and I'm having a hard time with the guest list because of a complicated cousin situation. I have...

Traditional Pre-Shabbat Call Now Causing Resentment

Dear Miriam, My mother and I have always had the tradition to speak to each other on Friday afternoons before Shabbat. We maintained this all...

What’s the Current Registry Etiquette?

Dear Miriam, My fiancé and I don’t live together and will most likely start looking at houses after our wedding. Creating a registry now for...

Is ‘No Gifts Please’ For Real?

Dear Miriam, I've gotten a number of invitations lately specifying "no gifts please." These have included baby announcements, kids’ birthdays and housewarming parties. Do people...

Construction Creates Safety Questions

Dear Miriam, There is some shady construction happening in my neighborhood, and I am regularly concerned about safety around the construction site. However, I hesitate to...

Lunch Bunch Creates Communications Crunch

Dear Miriam, I'm open about my Judaism at work, but I also don't make an issue of anything specific about my observance, which I would...

Tisha B’Av Creates Block Party Conundrum

Dear Miriam, My neighbors went out of their way to get kosher meat for my family for our upcoming block party. They were so kind...